Love comes in many forms, from family, friends, colleagues and a partner. Do you know what the hardest thing about love is? Learning to love yourself.
Learning to love yourself when you feel broken and abused, insecure about your looks, weight and whether you fit in with a crowd is the most difficult task to learning to love yourself again. I want to say to anyone who is going through this struggle, it will be OK. It all begins with making a change in your life. However saying that, the change needs to be for you, not the boy or girl you fancy, not because you’ve seen it in a magazine or across social media, it has to be for YOU.
You will not and cannot change anything if it’s for anyone other than yourself. You want to start exercising to feel comfortable in your own skin again ? Great, exercise is a great outlet for stress and is scientifically proven to boost and improve your mood. It’s a start, but it’s not the be all or end all to your entire world. There are lots of ways to boost your mood such as reading a book, grabbing a coffee with a friend you haven’t seen for a while, anything you can think of that could lift you up and set you on the right path to looking in the mirror and loving yourself again.
The problem often with depression is that there is no quick fix, but there is always a way back. There will always be a way back to the person you can once again recognise in the mirror, not a shattered image of multiple problems you think are impossible to get past. The problem is only as big as you make it, narrow down one and begin to figure it out and soon enough all the broken pieces and shards of glass will start to mend themselves together. You won’t be the same person you used to be, but you will be a better and stronger version of yourself you never knew was even there. It is a long process, it will take time, but only YOU have the ability to do this, and only when you have changed can you accept yourself and truly, deeply love yourself for the beautiful human being that was put on this earth for a reason.
I have found that learning to love myself again has given me purpose, it has set me off on a more positive path. Not everyday is easy, it isn’t supposed to be, but I smile, laugh and love from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to sleep. Life is too short to not love yourself and anyway, if you can’t learn to love yourself how the hell is anyone else going too?